[This article just came in a few days after I finished my previous post. It’s written by the same guy who wrote the book Sex-Ploytation. Most of his stuffs emphasize more on women. He doesn’t really "attack" much on men for being suckers but more on women for lacking in integrity. Read the book Sex-Ploytation and you’ll see why] [There’s basically 3 teachings out there. First one is all about changing the men’s view point on the whole dating thing and teaching them how to avoid/spot self-serving bitches and know how to look for the good one. The second one is about pointing out how women are actually manipulating men to get what they want. The truth is, most women are manipulative by nature, and they just don’t realize it. The third one is about knowing how women work and exploiting it. It’s not unethical; it’s just a matter of how one uses such information]

[In bracket and bold = me, everything else = not me]

[P/S: melle, don’t bother reading. This is even longer than my previous one]

There's an old joke that goes: Good girls say, "No;" bad girls ask, "When?"
It's the classic dichotomy for the male psyche -- madonna vs. whore, Mary Ann vs. Ginger, housewife vs. ho, homebody vs. party girl. Which of the two is better?

As men, we're instantly aroused by the Pamela Andersons of the world, but inside we know we could never tame -- much less trust -- a female like this. Instinctively we seek out more normal, down-to-earth women when we're thinking of marriage and children.

Still, it's a problem that never goes away. We want the best of both worlds: a princess on the street and a whore in the bedroom [Crispy on the outside, crunchy on the inside, Ferrero Rocher] Someone who is nice and treats us with respect, yet who acts like a wildcat in heat between the sheets. So just what are the advantages and disadvantages of dating bad girls and good girls? And is it possible to somehow combine the two types into one perfect woman? [Combine, no. Make one yourself, yes]

First, let's look at some of the qualities embodied by the Bad Girl:

The goods on the bad girl

She's fun
She can party all night, drink herself into a stupor and still get up the next day and be ready for more. She'll laugh and flirt, and make you feel like a man. [Well, there’s actually many more ways to make a man feel like a man and I don’t mean anything sexual]

She's exciting
Bad girls are walking adrenaline rushes. For her, life is a roller coaster ride, and it'll get your blood singing just to be along for the trip. Bad girls never have time for introspection or depression -- they're too busy grabbing the world by the horns. [I wouldn’t say this is a bad thing nor would I say it’s a good thing. For the short term of course it’s a good thing cause they just don’t worry that much about anything but the bad thing is, girls like these often distant themselves from reality and when reality finally hits them, they’d be like 41 and living with 20 cats]

She craves sex
The bad girl loves men and makes no bones about it. She's more than happy to fulfill any fantasy you can dream up. She's the kind who will tear up the sheets while she's screaming out her seventh orgasm in a row (you'll feel like you're the king of the sexual world). And you won't have to deal with any head games -- she's more than happy to seduce you 24/7. [Joey would say "ohhh… you are perfect"]

She's eye candy
Bad girls are usually very attractive with jaw-dropping figures -- the ultimate "hot babes." They know how to walk the walk and strut their stuff. They get off on being the center of male attention. A bad girl loves plunging necklines, bare midriffs, high heels, skirts hemmed at mid-thigh, strapless anything, and sexy lingerie (if she wears any underwear at all). [I think this is just me, but girls in sexy clothes isn’t really that much attractive. If her face doesn’t go with the whole package it just doesn’t matter. Take Shu Qi for instant, she got nice body but her face just doesn’t measure up]

[I just got this from the pilot episode of Sex and the City. If a girl is interesting, she’s not beautiful. If a girl is beautiful, she’s not interesting. This actually makes sense in a way. If a girl is pretty, she doesn’t have to be interesting because she can just get by with her prettiness. And apparently, to most women, being interesting is too much work and much harder than making up their face for 5 hours. And for those lacking in the look department, they have to make it up with good personality or in other word, be interesting. If only women would put in more effort in being more interesting]

[Pretty face is common. So in order to set yourself apart from the rest of the pretty faces, you should be an interesting pretty face and not just another pretty face. Normal guys settle for pretty face, Mr. Big settle for interesting pretty face, I settle for interesting pretty face]

She ups your status
When you have a stunner like this on your arm, all other men are jealous and women are intrigued, and immediately your stud rating soars into the stratosphere. You'll be the stuff of legends when you regale your buddies with tales from your bedroom. [Trophy girlfriend/wife/whatever. When a guy is young, he wants this but when he wants have a wife and settle down, this would go down on the priority list. Unless he just wants to parade his wife around, and amazingly, there are women who are willing to do just that, be paraded]

The bads on the bad girl

She's untrustworthy
All men want her and she knows it, and she's definitely a serial flirter. Because she's such a sexual animal, she's apt to seduce anyone who strikes her fancy, so you shouldn't expect a bad girl to be loyal. [If she can flirt with you, what makes you think she won’t to the same to other guys behind your back? What comes around goes around. If you think that she’ll change because she’s with you and that you could be the one she wants, well that’s very sweet but that’s wishful thinking. Serial flirter seeks attention as a form of validation and the attention from you alone will never be enough]

She's dangerous
She's the type who will go 100 in a 30 mph zone just because she likes the rush. She may be into drugs or excessive alcohol consumption. She's spontaneous, unpredictable and wild. [Spontaneous, unpredictable and wild are actually good, only if she does it 30 in a 30 mph zone]

She makes a bad partner
Bad girls are extremely self-obsessed and selfish. They think about one person: themselves. They're extravagant and will spend their last dime on themselves. They don't settle down comfortably. For these reasons, they usually make lousy wives and mothers, and rarely survive lifelong relationships. [Pretty much the same with the descriptions of the bad boys that I mentioned in my previous post. If you want a meaningful lasting relationship, go for the homebodies or girls over 28. Men have reflect on their life at the age of 40 but for women, it happens sooner because as we all know, men’s value tend to appreciate over time but women, it works the other way round. Girls tend to be more stable and "reasonable" around the age of 28, they calm down a bit at this age. Although there are girls who give up on love all together after they hit 30, mostly they are the kinda girls who never learn. They just kept falling for the wrong guy (bad boys, jerk, assholes) and just give up on love all together at one point, and just settle with toy boys]

She is expensive
No low-maintenance here -- from day one she'll be looting your wallet for expensive meals, trips and jewelry. The typical bad girl sets a very high price on the use of her vagina, and if you don't want to cough up the cash, there'll be plenty of guys panting in the wings to pay her price. [Yeah, the way he put it may be rude but then again, if it’s all polite and politically correct, no one would give a shit, would they?]

The goods on the good girl

She's wholesome and nice
A good girl is rarely bitchy or "empowered." She's pleasant to be around and has a positive attitude toward life. She'll go out of her way to help you or take care of you when you're sick, and when problems arise, she'll discuss them calmly, instead of flying into a rage or screaming at you just because you're a "man." [They (women) say men are from Mars and women are from Venus. If that’s the case, then give me a girl from Mars (and cue the song from Ash)]

She's a clean slate
With her limited sexual experience, a good girl doesn't have a lot of men to compare you to and won't expect you to be a world-class lover. [But that doesn’t mean a guy should not try to be the lover of her life]

She's unlikely to cheat on you
Good girls tend to be homebodies, not party girls. Because she doesn't present herself in the same sexually-alluring manner that a bad girl does, you won't have to worry about a lot of other guys coming on to her. A good girl wants to find the one true love of her life and stay with him until death do them part, instead of seducing half the male population before she gets too old. [I like the last sentence. This is actually what you get to see with the girls in Sex and the City, seducing half of the male population before they get old. The truth is, a man loves to be seduced by girls but if the guy wants a good one to keep, he would prefer it that the girl is the one whom he seduced on his own, not a girl who seduced him. In short, for short term, a guy loves girls coming to him, but for the long term, a guy would prefer to go on the hunt. Most of the time, a guy would not stay long with a girl who come on to him first. I got a long theory on this but since I’m not gonna win any prize for my theories other than a box of chocolate ice-cream (which I got to buy myself), I might as well save my energy on this]

She's often your best friend
She genuinely enjoys your company and gives back to you as much as she takes. When you're gone, she misses you; when you're at home, she showers you with attention. [A flexible giver. Anita Yuen is a good example. I saw a talk show with Anita and her bf, Chi Lam. Both of them are really like friends, really good friends. Anita is "strong" on the outside (or at least she seems that way to me) but at the same time, she’s this little cute puppy when she’s with Chi Lam]

She's easier on finances
Good girls can rate low on the maintenance scale -- they're much more likely to share dating expenses (just because it's the right thing to do), and if you get married, she'll happily throw her paycheck in with yours to pay the mortgage and bills. [A friend asked me out for a drink the other day so, being the typical me who likes to push every button, I asked "you belanja izzit? later dinner you also belanja rite?" Those who really know me will know that I was just joking, I was just seeing how far I can push it. So, my friend later replied and said I "sek yuen fan". I’m not sure how to translate this but it roughly means "living off a woman or something like that". She could actually be joking too, I don’t know but what I’m sure is that, a lot of girls will give you the face (or the finger) if you ask them to buy you lunch/dinner/whatever even when they were the one who initiated the date. But only an ass will ask for a date and then ask the girl to buy (this actually happens and interestingly, some girls actually comply with it). If the girl asked for the date, you could ask for her to buy, but not that you should, just ask for fun and see how she reacts to it (a good indicator of what kinda person she is) and then split the bill. That’s the better choice, go Dutch]

She makes a good wife & mother
The typical good girl is practical, down-to-earth and nurturing. She loves children. She usually comes from a good family and wants to carry on those family values in her own life. [Nothing much I can say. If you get a good one, chances are, you’ve got a good wife/mother too]

The bads on the good girl

She's about as exciting as vanilla
Since she'd rather stay at home reading a book than go out partying, life with a good girl can be a bit uneventful. [And it’s up to you to put the chocolate into the vanilla and walla, vanilla-chocolate milkshake. Not too much on the chocolate and not too much on the vanilla. Just nice *wink*. The smooth tasting white vanilla with the aphrodisiac chocolate that will just melt the heart and turn it into liquid fire of lust and desire. And I got no idea what the heck I’m talking about but it sounds rather nice thou]

She can be a sexual dud
Good girls are often boring in bed, either from lack of experience or lack of desire. Sex with her is predictable. She rarely inspires lust and will probably wait for her man to initiate lovemaking. This can leave the typical guy very unfulfilled, his gaze straying toward that bad girl over there with the unfettered nipples and the long wraparound legs. [I kinda believe that a girl’s lack of sexual desire/drive is partly related to the performance of the guy. Ask yourself, if you are having fun and enjoy doing something, wouldn’t you be looking forward to it with enthusiasm and raring to go?]

She's fashionably comfortable
She wears her hair pulled back and little make-up. She prefers sweats and tennis shoes to mini skirts and pumps. Oftentimes, you can forget about thong underwear. [Truth is, I kinda prefer pulled back hair with little make-up instead of those who goes the nine mile in make up. But then again, not many girls can pull off the "simple yet elegant" look. So to be safe, just go all out. You don’t want to scare the kids without your make-up. One reason why I don’t fancy make-up is because; almost any girl can look "presentable" after make-up but not every girl can pull the elegant-eye-candy simple look. And again, pretty face is common]

The good to bad…

So the question remains: Which one should you choose? The obvious answer is that the perfect woman would embody the best of both of these types -- the niceness and loyalty of the good girl and the sexual abandon of the bad girl. [The "balanced" girl perhaps?]

While such women may exist naturally out there, it's more likely that, to achieve this ideal, you'll have to train a good girl to be bad (because there's no way a bad girl is going to be good). [Like I said, crooked arrows can’t be straighten but a straight arrow can be "crooked" just the way you want it. And if I may add, there’s no way a bad boy is going to be good too]

How?

Well, this may not be an easy task, because many good girls have been brainwashed by mom, church or school into thinking that "bad" is inherently wrong [Social conditioning] So the trick is to encourage her natural sexuality. Make her comfortable with sex. Romance her. Tell her how sexy she is when she seduces you or fulfills your fantasies -- or how satisfying it is to fulfill hers. Let her understand that great sex between the two of you can create an awesome bond, and that it is -- ultimately -- "good." [All this while, I’ve been emphasizing too much on the man side. Guess now I should start changing women instead of trying to change men. Now, the problem is finding a good one to change. Sigh]

[Oh Lord, give me a girl with a good heart, good brains, and a good face and I’ll take care of the rest. I don’t care if she has got low self-esteem or lack in confidence or whatever (I’m pretty sure I can fix that) cause I know it’s almost impossible to find the perfect one (and this did took me a while to realize). Anything can be fixed except for the heart and the brains and the face (plastic surgery tak kira). Like what Zack Siler said in the movie She’s All That, "I can turn any girl into a prom queen". And now I want my Laney Boggs. I didn’t get my Santarina for Christmas, so now I want my Laney Boggs for CNY. Do you think she’ll fit in an Ang Pow envelope?]

So while bad girls can be exciting, they're usually only worth it in the short term. If you can find a good girl and turn her into a sexual animal, you may just have found the perfect woman. And pretty soon, your good girl may be asking, "When?" [True, bad girls, just like bad boys are only worth it in the short term. But the difference here is that, most guys who go into a relationship with a bad girl knows that it’s not going to last but girls who go into a relationship with a bad boy DO NOT know what she’s getting herself into. Women are illogical. How often you hear a girl saying she wants a good guy but always end up with a jerk/bad boy? Very often. Most women do not know what they want and a nice guy can’t leave it all up to the women to choose who is best for her because she won’t be able to choose what’s best for her. Women think with their heart and the heart isn’t known for making logical or the best decision. It’s up to the nice guy to act up and beat the bad boys at their own game] [It’s proven that a nice guy can be changed, so the next question is, can a good girl be "trained"? We’ll see ;)]

[You don’t always have to go for the knockout stunning girl. A girl with brains and character is all you need, and in my case, a good face too. I’m just a sucker for this, can’t help it, call me shallow but I really can’t help it. I’m ugly but I still want a good face. "lai ha mou siong sek tin ngo yuk" Haha. It’s in canto by the way] [Get a girl with a good core and everything else is just a matter of time. Most guys want a girl that makes him want to be better. Not the girl changing the guy but the guy wants to change FOR the girl. Like a motivation for the guy to be a better man. Same goes the other way round. Get a girl with good values, good brains, good face, and a good heart and make her want to be better for you]