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I think the screening is kinda good idea...hehe. Since there's thousands of emails from ahmoi.com and I don't even put any picture there.But seriously, from what I read from your blog, some ppl don't find ahmoi as a useful source but something else...you know what I mean. There's so many ppl like this (the William, Reload Card Beggar, Killer Question Lady etc). I received an 'interesting' email from ahmoi.com too..but I'd deleted it. It was from this businessman who claim that he travels around the world doing business and need someone to accompany him on his lonely trips.And of course, he offered payment for the companionship.
What is in ppl's head nowadays? Nothing but sex and money?
Genius noodle, tell me that I can still cling on my tiny hope of true love.

Yeah, screening is good but that depends on what’s the intention of screening in the first place. Whether she wants to screen for a big fat wallet or maybe screen for guys who are nice and etc. And apparently, this girl is screening for a BMW *grin*

Seriously, ahmoi.com isn’t really much of a useful source to find someone meaningful. I’m speaking from my personal point of view here so this might not apply for others but 85% of all the girls in ahmoi.com can’t really converse well in English. I am sure they can communicate just fine in their mother tongue but when it comes to replying mails in English, it all goes haywire. Almost 90% of all profiles that I’ve browsed thru have got nothing in their description. I really doubt that they are there to find any friends. My personal view on this is that, they are somewhat introvert in real life and can’t really find a guy (or girl) to truly appreciate them for who they are, so they resort to trying their luck in ahmoi.com. But when they set up their account, they don’t really write anything in there. And I mean it’s blank or just a single line "looking for sincere" or something like that.

Why don’t they write anything one may wonder. 2 reasons that I can think of are first, they aren’t really there to find any friends or they weren’t putting any hope in finding any friends and secondly, there are nothing they can say about themselves. I mean, the main reason why some of them play ahmoi.com is because their real life personality aren’t "attractive" so if they were to describe their personality into words and putting it into the profile, it would just probably repel off anyone just like how they did in real life. So the best for them is to just leave it blank, leave it all to fate and hope there are some mails in the inbox the next day. Well, they could lie but what’s the point? Lie now and get the guy and then when the guy finds out and walks off, it would be even worse for them.

I have a girl replying to me saying that she didn’t understand what I wrote and asked me if she had hurt me by saying that she didn’t understand me. It’s like she is saying that my English was bad and that she hope she didn’t hurt my feelings by revealing to me that my English was bad. And btw, she got one of my copy/paste emails and she’s the only one who tells me she doesn’t understand what I wrote.

hi, nice to meet u....
Actually i don understand wat u r trying to say..
m i hurt u? if yes, so sorry wo....
hv a nice day...:-)

Tell me, how am I supposed to reply to this mail? All of them can understand English in general, I am sure of that. And I am sure they get good score for PMR and SPM too. Except for the little grammar errors here and there (I myself have problems with grammars my whole life) most of them can understand standard English. But once you start going flowery or using phrases or being funny or stuffs like that, they automatically go blank. If you were to see how I write my post and how I chat and how I write my mails, they are totally different. Writing my post, I don’t have to concern if those reading it will understand me or not because this is largely a one-way thing, so I can write whatever way I want. But while chatting and emailing, I have to make sure they get what I’m trying to say so most of the time I have to go back to SPM English.

And there is this girl who replied me with 3 letters, "asl". It’s either she’s arrogant or she’s got problems.

And I get a lot of replies that ask me to tell them more about myself. I actually got sick of this. When you first meet a friend in real life, do you ask the person to tell you more about him/her? You don’t put a friend that you just know on the spotlight. You start with fluff talk, jokes, stupid jokes or anything along those lines. And for those who think this is stupid, I can safely say that they are not really fun people to be around with. They just do not know how to go easy.

I remember once during college where I was having a drink with a friend in a restaurant. Then one of my friend’s friends that I do not yet know came over and sits next to us. He actually overheard us talking about a band so he just slotted in and I just chatted with him like his is already a friend. We ended up chatting for a good couple of hours before I actually got to know his name. You don’t want any pressure when meeting someone new, real life or virtual. You just let it be, talk something stupid, something light, something funny (but not to the level of being a clown).

There are even some who replied back asking why am I being hostile. I was actually just joking with them and they automatically thought that I was being mean. Some people are just so hung up. Even if I am insulting them, it’s just on emails, no one knows so their dignity isn’t harmed so why can’t they give me the benefits of the doubt for the first time? If they still think I was genuinely being mean the second or the third time, then it’s still not too late to shut me off then. But why shut me off the very first time? Some people just aren’t flexible; it’s either their way or the highway. No fun at all *chuckle*

Well, maybe it’s just me, I don’t know *sigh*

Sex and money. It’s actually funny since you mention it. Men are willing to pay for sex and women are willing to give sex for money. There’s sex in the head of men and there’s money in the head of women. I think these kinda stuffs are going to stay for a long long time *sigh*

And stop calling me genius, I’m blushing already… hehe. I can’t tell you that you can still cling on to your tiny hope of true love but I’m sure you’ve already found the answer in Joe. *grin*

oi... wat this??!! generalising ALL the st. something-soemthing & convent something-something people into revolting 'regulars' who want to be something they arent?!! FYI - i came from BOTH a St. & Convent something [St. Michael's & Main Convent Ipoh - I'm proud of it - so there!] But seriously, not EVERYONE'S like that! I admit there are some unbearable buggers who think that they're better than everyone else (and act like it too!) but there ARE regulars who just enjoy being ourselves, or even ah beng or cina at times - i mean, there's a bit of each in every one of us, dont u think so? personally, though i'm able to speak good english (and that means NO grammatical mistakes at all), i relish indulging in all the la's and broken english that make me sound just like a cina (or ahbeng). [note the "wat this?!" instead of "wat's this?!" at the beginning of this post] It's more fun, somehow (minus the swearing, of course *grin*).
Haha, ok, noodlez - b4 u get all heated up saying i'm misdirecting this barrage of indignance at you, let me say i'm just posting it here in the hopes that moonlight might read it. too lazy to go hunting for his/her blog (at the mo).
and hrmm... bout the ahmoi gal who asked bout the bmx/w... i was going to suggest that perhaps she PURPOSELY asked you those questions just to see how you would respond to them. But since all she did was ask about the BMX/W thing in answer to your reply... i can only say that some women are an embarrassment to the female gender. *sigh*...
kim here, btw...

Erm… I think Moonlight did use the word “TEND” on her post so technically she is not generalizing ALL the St. something-something & something-something Convent people into revolting 'regulars' who want to be something they aren’t like you said. What I believe she said was, the Regulars tend to come from St. and Convent schools which is true to a certain extent. A large percentage of the Regulars do come from the St. and Convent but that doesn’t mean ALL St. and Convent are Regulars.

I do agree that there’s a bit of each in every one of us, but if a person can speak Chinese but chooses to speak English (or be Regular) instead, now that’s a bit sad. Before anyone holds me against my word, what I meant was, if the person is speaking to another person who can’t speak Chinese (mat salleh, ABC) then English is the way to go, but if both can speak Chinese but instead they choose to speak in English, now that’s really sad.

To sound like a Cina or Ah Beng, then just speak in Chinese. And if you are speaking to a person who can’t understand Chinese at all and you have to use English, then I guess that person would really appreciate it if you could speak in proper English because broken English to a mat salleh or ABC is really not that nice. I am sure a mat salleh would prefer proper English rather than broken English, although broken English does sounds cute. Broken English is only for Chinese learning to speak English to someone who can’t speak Chinese, and hopefully after learning, they can move up to proper English. I do agree with BMX girl, broken English (…la, mah, meh, hor, wor; you should only use this when speaking in Chinese) is acceptable in writing but preferably not in speaking.

Yeah, about the BMX thing, I already knew the reason why she asked those questions. Her main concern is only the first question. The others are merely bait for suckers like the dress up question as well as just a cover up for her true intention (the first question). If you really read the answers carefully, there were actually insults in it. And the fact that she didn’t even bother about the insults when she replied me; it was clear what kinda person she is and her intentions.

And btw, I posted this up because you wanted Moonlight to read it so putting it as a post would help. And what I wrote here is purely one way and is a reflection of what I think. It’s not a rebuttal to what you said. I leave the rebuttal to Moonlight, if she’s interested :)

Ok, Moonlight has replied. And since I’m at it, I’ll just append it here.

Ahem...if you read my blog, I highlighted that I am not generalizing the anything but the fact is the Regular DO comes from the St. Sthg-Sthg and Sthg-Stgh Convent, because you guys can speak English better than the Cinas and the AhBengs. Not true? I take back my 'revolting' word but it's just psychologily true. Maybe I should not say revolting....it's kinda an insulting statement. I do have friends from those schools. Great ppl actually and no hard feelings with them. It's just when they try to talk with perfect English and most deadly when they try to speak with accent.....There's even some of my friends from my Kebangsaan school that behaves this way. I feel kinda uncomfortable chatting with them not because I can't speak at their superior English level, it's because I feel that us Chinese no matter where we are, should converse in Chinese...it's our root. Don't forget....:)
And if you do speak both English and Chinese fluently...good for you. I salute you^_^

Man, you are fast. I was about to post this and then I saw you’ve already replied to it. But on the bright side, at least I know you are checking me blog quite frequently… hehe. And btw, nice reply, you are very tactful *grin*

Yeah, I am with you with your last part. I just can’t speak English with a Chinese. I’ll just get this weird feeling and I felt different. And the fact that the Cantonese-speaking me is much more loveable than the English-speaking me *laugh*

Hahah... okies... must admit that i cant tahan my fellow 'regulars' who speak with accents as well... darn fake + so pretentious. go japan one month can come back with american accent, can u believe it?! hrmmm... must admit that i'm part banana... though i can converse in cantonese (not too good though)... mandarin n hokkien = always kena laugh at when i speak... but hey, at least i'm trying, right? ;) oklah... we better not rob noodlez of the attention he gets from this blog with this discussion *grin* dun get mad yah noodlez... -kim-

Nah, discussion is good. Heck, I was actually hoping for a cat fight *dissapointed* But really, I don't care about the attention, I just want readers. See the counter at the side? I want the numbers to go up but I don't want to cheat. And I want more people to read what I have to write. So anyone here who likes to forward stuffs (word of mouth, mails), do me a favor, help this little cute boy fullfil his dream *laugh* I do write good stuffs anyway or at least that's what people keep telling me :)