*this ain't my work as well, but i really do love this

Dearly beloved, are you listening?
I can’t remember a word that you were saying
Are we demented?
Or am I just disturbed?
The space that’s in between insane and insecure
Oh [anyone], can you please feel the void?
Am I retarded?
Or am I just overjoyed?
Nobody’s perfect and I stand accused
For the lack of a better word and that’s my best excuse

*this is not my work,

She’s an extraordinary girl in an ordinary world
And she can’t seem to get away
He lacks the courage in his mind
Like a child left behind
Like a pet left in the rain
She’s all alone again
Wiping the tears from her eyes
Some days he feels like dying
She gets so sick of crying
She sees the mirror of herself
An image she wants to sell
To anyone willing to buy
He steals the image in her kiss
From her heart’s apocalypse
From the one called [anyone]

[Someday it’s not worth trying]

I’ve actually tried looking for the book in local bookstores but till now I have yet to see one that sells this book. So as a good human being as I’ve always been *laugh* I’m putting here the back cover of the book.

Sex-Ploytation might just seems like an innocent title for a book but wait till you see the sub-title for the book *chuckle*. The complete title for the book is actually; Sex-Ploytation: How women use their bodies to extort money from men.

Just by the title I bet many women are getting mad already. Maybe it’s a psychology thingy from the author to get more people to buy the book but honestly I do think the title did do justice to the content of the book, nothing less.

Actually I don’t really mind typing out the whole book if it wasn’t for the copyright. If you guys really want the book, maybe try pushing MPH or Times or Kinokuniya and perhaps if there’s enough demand they might just take up the deal and distribute it here in Malaysia. Just as important as sex education for kids/teenagers today, this book is no less important to all men and women.

I think I’ve said it earlier that the main focus of this book is actually more on American women so some of the things said might not apply to Malaysian women (not yet at least) but in general it applies.

Now I have to go read the book again… hehe. And I really agree with this particular sentence from the book, “… a society controlled, of course, by women”. I can’t stress any harder how much sense this book make. I am not being one sided but this fella (the author) really puts things into perspective.

I saw David Letterman yesterday, and there was this guest from Canada. An old lady name Sue Johansson who hosts a talk show call “Sex Talk” teaching kids/teenagers about sex (safe sex that is).

David was talking about his “misery” when he was young that he could hardly score with girls and stuffs like that and then he ask that how different it is now that it used to be (regarding sex). And Sue said that it had been different because girls these days are more liberated. Kids are having sex at the age of 12 or even younger. One of the main reasons is the media and pornography. But that’s not the main point I am trying to make here although I really do believe that sex education is IMPORANT in this country. Our stupid government has been talking about sex education in schools and till now there’s not even a word on it. Give me a column in the national newspapers with no censorship and I’ll make this country “tremble” hehe ;)

Back to David Letterman, David said that back in those days, men believe that only men love sex and women do not love sex. Men were made to believe that girls are not interested in sex and that men are the only species who can’t stop thinking about sex. And Sue’s reply to this is really GOOD, “men had been fooled all these years”.

Sue said that all this was because of “our mothers” that say good girls don’t do this, good girls don’t like sex, good girls don’t have sex (pre-marital) and good girls don’t do many more things (you get the deal).

And even the term “slut” is subjective. David asked about “being slutty” and Sue asked back, define a slut? Sleep with you one the first date or sleep with you one the 21st date?

And the ultimate question was “can a wonderful girl be slutty?” The answer, absolutely yes. Nice girl can be slutty, what’s wrong with that? The important things is, be true to yourself, practice safe sex, be confidence and acknowledge that we all are indeed sexual beings (paraphrased from what Sue Johansson said).

A friend once said this to me, “If 2 people want to have fun and do it safely, then why not?” [the exact same person who corrupted my “innocent” mind *chuckle* but is a wonderful girl :)]

What Sue Johansson and David Letterman talked about on yesterday’s show actually complements what the book has to say (on the surface at least). I actually feel sad that they don’t sell this book here. There are a lot of guys who could really use some “reality check” from reading this book. Well, guess you just can’t help everyone *grin*

Both comments were posted on the previous post.

Are you applied this as General Woman charactor and General Man charactor...i do feel that there is nothing "general" for the gender. I should said it's all very based on individual. Those charactor that you mentioned on woman...it did applied to man as well. For example "change their mind million times", this is not woman priority...It does appeared in MAN charactor too. That's what i meant here...Based on individual not gender....The book is not worth buying...wasting of money...

Point #1: Every man moans about wanting a woman who would think and behve like a guy. But when u do get one, you'll probably find that you wont like it very much.
Point #2: It is extremely unfair to generalise women like that. [To noodlez: The fact that you want to distribute this piece of trash to everyone on the street proves that you're generalizing - to the extreme.]
Point #3: Men are more subceptible to being unfaithful than women (hey, everyone's generalising anyway). If they're not getting sex from their women they'd just go out and find other women who will.
Point #4: Nine out of ten men will tell you that they wouldnt mind having a woman make the first move. Fine. Very good. I like that attitude (I'm female, by the way). However, what they say and how they actually react after a woman HAS made the first move are two very different things. Most men have an in-built phobia about not being the first one to make a move. The moment a gal shows interest they lose interest, and if we DON'T show interest they complain that we play hard to get. WTF?
Point #5: We ARE nice. Of course there are self-serving bitches in the world (there are also self-serving bastards, please be reminded), but if you CHOOSE to get involved with them (and most probably for the sex, then that's your own bloody fault anyway), so who the hell are you to complain?
Point #6: If men only had the sense to find/look for women who dont act according to the list, they wouldnt be bitching about it in the first place, dont you think so? (and trust me, there are plenty of sensible women out there. The only problem is that most men's brains are located between their legs, which then results in them going for the bitches, which then results in the above-mentioned (men's) bitching).

So lay down all the bloody laws you want. I say that if you already have a really great lady, you'll find no need to lay down those laws at all, or even think about doing so. She'd have enough common sense not to act like that already, or to pick a guy who, instead of going out and LOOKING for her, chooses instead to bitch about the more undesirable ones of her species.

Note: all of the above (ok, maybe excluding #2) is merely a reply to the article, not a personal attack on noodlez.

Yeah, the list is both generalizing woman in whole as well as in individual (contradictions eh *grin*). Men do change their mind millions of time, men are inconsistent, men do give out mixed signals, and etc (you get the deal here) but statistically speaking, women do most of that more than men does. And again it all comes to do the individual.

The list is generalizing women because it was indeed intended for women to read in masses. But when you (a woman) are reading it, it becomes personal or individual. Not many women will have all 9 traits that were stated in the article (the last one isn’t really a trait) but most women will have one or two of it. That is why the article has to be in general or otherwise it would be meaningless. It’s an article directed to many different individuals cramped into a single article (I am not sure if that makes any sense).

And the truth is the article wasn’t meant to belittle women in any way. Although the article was written by someone else, I take responsibility for any comments or criticisms heading my way because I am aware that by publishing the article in this blog, I am indirectly endorsing the idea of the article.

Most men are pigs; you hear that all the time. And I agree that men are indeed pigs but not all. Some are pigs and some are humans. Some are bastards and some are nice. Whenever I read something negative about men, I like to smile or laugh. Some women will say that her man is not sensitive enough, not enough of a man or he forgets her birthday and etc. All these are true that women do not like all those in a man. But am I going to refute her and say that women can be insensitive too and etc? Sure I can, but what’s the point?

But instead, I take pleasure in knowing that I am not or do not have the traits that make me a pig or a bastard. And if I do have those traits, instead of “neutralizing” it by saying that women too have those traits, I’d be better off reflecting on myself and scrap off those negative traits. I know I’ll have a field day coming up with an article titled “women are pigs too” but do 2 wrongs make 1 right? An eye for an eye? And if I’m too consumed with trying to win the “battle of the sexes”, fighting each bad words being said about men, I’d be too blinded to be able to reflect on myself and see whether I am actually a decent guy or am I just a plain old bastard pig.

People who do not know me would think that all I have in mind is a twisted vengeance towards women. And that I have freaking big male ego that I just can’t help stomping on women like they are a piece of crap under my shoe. But people who know me know that I have much respect for women. All my “generalizations” about women are either being meant as a joke or as a provocation of thought. A provocation for women to think whether it is right to use a guy to get what they want or is it honest to milk man into cheese and etc (you know what I mean). A provocation to get them to reflect on themselves and see if they are nice or… not nice.

I’ve let a few people read the book “Sex-Ploytation” and so far, only 1 girl actually enjoys reading it because although the book is kinda “nasty” but she knows that she ain’t one of what the author described and she too knows that there are indeed girls who trade sex for money (or is a self-serving bitch). The other girls who read it don’t really give me any response. Maybe either it’s because they feel they are what the authors described in the book or maybe they just don’t fancy a guy “attacking” their fellow sisters.

The book may be one sided but the book is based on actual facts and true real life experience. And I know if any feminists were to read the book, they’ll find a way to refute everything, no doubt about it but you still have to accept the reality that it doesn’t change the truth in the book. There are women have no idea that some of their actions are not very much appreciated by the opposite sex. Instead of seeing articles like this as a female-bashing agenda, why not take it as a point of view from the male perspective. There are always 2 sides of a story. There’s a reason why I watch Eve’s Diary and why I read CLEO, ok maybe 2 reasons. First reason is that I get to laugh because it’s amusing in a way for me (I am serious, it’s amusing *grin*) and second, I get to view a certain issue from a female perspective. Sometimes it could be a little confusing but still I get a glimpse on how women see things.

There are truths in every word the article/book has to say and so do in everything you all have to say. There are self-serving bitches in this world and there are stupid bastard pigs too. There is no denying in all that. The questions that you should ask are; are you pissed/mad/angry because what that has been said are true about (for) you OR it’s not true in your case but you just can’t stand having a guy belittling on your fellow sisters OR are you going to take pleasure in accepting the truth about what has been said and in knowing (proudly?) that you are not a self-serving bitch?

[P/S: And I want to emphasize on this again, I do love women ;)]

[Disclaimer: This is an article that i saved quite a while ago. Found it while browsing thru my HD full of craps. My HD is actually an oasis full of treasures *grin*]

Let's face it, guys -- dealing with women is often a confusing, frustrating, tear-your-hair-out-by-the-roots experience.

If you act like a gentleman, she thinks you're a wimp. If you're aggressive about sex, she calls you an "animal" -- but if you put on the brakes, you suddenly get relegated to "friend" status.

A lose-lose situation

If you express problems with her behavior, she finds a way to blame it on you. If you're nice to her and shower her with respect, she dumps you for a jerk who treats her like something he just scraped off his shoe. And if you try the jerk routine, she accuses you of being a "control freak" and runs off with the bad boy anyway.

This is why every guy out there is scratching his head, saying, "Why are women so screwed up?" and, "What the hell do they want?"

That's because we tend to think like, well, men -- not like women. The fuel that runs our brains is logic, but women's thought processes are invincibly emotion-based. Women don't have to make sense to themselves.

And yet, somehow, it all makes sense to them.

Go figure.

You can't.

Cue the monkey wrench

But here's the monkey wrench: As guys, we're supposed to puppy-dog it and obediently put up with all this irrational, inconsistent behavior. We're supposed to cater to women while they expect to get away with manipulating us and acting any way that suits their fancy at the moment.

The reason? That's easy; in the relationship game, women hold the trump card: sex. And most guys would rather just roll over and offer their backs to the "p-whip" than risk losing access to the goodies.

Women know this. They use it against us. They expect us to tolerate their whims and sexual blackmail because they have what we want.

Don’t let her bash your rights

Well, guys, it's time for a change. Giving your power to a woman robs you of your fundamental rights as a man. It's time for us to stand up for ourselves and demand what we want in a relationship.

After all, it's only fair -- we live in a day and age of equal rights and equal rights means equal rights, not equal rights when it's convenient for her.

So start cracking your own whip. Ask her to pick you up for a change. Start demanding sex from her when you're in the mood. And why shouldn't she be the one to put the toilet seat up?

Oh sure, she'll rant and rave, and call you a "jerk," and try to blame it all on you. She'll call you "selfish" and "not interested in a relationship." And when that doesn't work, she'll cut off the sex, smugly confident that you won't be able to endure the siege.

But if you stand firm and hold your own, pretty soon she'll realize you're serious. And then things will change. Either she'll bolt (good riddance), or she'll transform herself into the partner you really want -- someone who can give as well as she can take.

The new rule book

So now it's time for you to lay down the law. Ask her to change. Tell her you're not going to put up with her behavior any more. To get you started, here's a list of 10 basic rules that you should print out and hand over to every woman in your life. From now on, these are the rules she can abide by:

1- Learn how to communicate
Say what you mean, ask for what you want directly. Expecting a man to interpret indirect signals and read your mind is not communication.

2- Learn to be consistent
Irrational behavior just doesn't cut it. If you say you're going to do something, then follow through and do it. Be honest with yourself -- don't say one thing and do another. And for God's sake, don't change your mind a million times.

3- Stop using sex as bait
If you want to have sex, then have sex. Don't use sex as a tool to manipulate men. And another thing: Stop tempting men with low-cut dresses or bare midriffs and then blame them for trying to get you into bed. If you need attention that badly, go see a shrink.

4- Develop a conscience
Stop abusing your sexual power. Many women have no ethical dilemmas at all about using men for favors or financial gain by dangling the promise of sex in front of them. Not only is this deceitful and immoral, but it's a double standard nothing short of fraud.

5- Knock off the mixed messages
If you're interested in a guy, let him know it. Ditto with sex. Maybe playing hard to get is cool if you're 12 years old, but it's just annoying 20 years later. Refer to rule #1 -- men aren't able to read minds, so don't expect them to.

6- Stop expecting men to finance your life
This is the 2000's, for God's sake -- women are enjoying unparalleled career and earning opportunities, and it's unfair to treat men like ATM machines, especially when many women are earning as much or more than we are. It may be a great scam, but at its core, it's nothing but age-old prostitution -- trading sex for money.

7- If you expect equality, then act like it
Equal rights means equal rights across the board -- not just when it's in your best interests. If you expect equal pay, then expect to be drafted and pay your share of dating expenses, too.

8- Stop blaming men for all your problems
We aren't what's wrong -- you are.

9- Just be nice
Can't you just be nice? Nobody likes a nasty, self-serving bitch. And men today are very, very tired of self-serving bitches.

10- Read “The Rules”
That's right, read it. Then do the opposite of every piece of advice the authors give. This is an ugly little book written by two women who know nothing at all about men and a lot about female greed.

[P/S: The author of this article actually had a book title “Sex-Ploytation” which is a darn good book [and when I say it’s good, I mean IT IS good *grin*]. The main focus of the book is actually on American women but I do think that it applies on most women.

But seriously, if I have enough money and they do sell this book in local bookstores, I’d make this book as my standard present for birthday, anniversary, etc for any women *chuckle*. Heck, if I have the money, I’d even distribute the book on streets for free]

The Last Call

There comes that point in the evening,
when the loudest of all silences takes place.
The last song is finishing its last note,
and you are left to make a decision.
No more hiding behind a drinking glass,
and no more visits to go powder your nose.
This is it, the moment when you decide,
if you're going to go for what's in this room,
Or let the opportunity pass,
And live with never knowing what might have been.
Both can fulfill a need, and both can leave you with regret.
So the question becomes, are you looking for fulfillment,
Or just a temporary escape from being alone?
Choose wisely. Life doesn't give refunds.

[I am looking for a temporary escape that will gives me fulfillments and gratifications *grin*]