It is very important that you look at the world as "your reality", and behave as if this is the case. One way to "build" that reality is to imagine it vividly.

Einstein said that "Imagination is more important than knowledge". And a great marketing genius named Roy Williams once said that our minds are far better suited to imagination than reality.

So ask yourself, “If you could have your life be any way you want, how would that be?” What would happen in your reality? As humans living in modern times, we can live almost any life we want. If only we decide what that life is going to be, and put our full attention on making that our reality.

Here’s a hypothetical story just for the sake of it.

The night before last, I went out with three friends. All guys. We went to a bar, then went to another bar and then another. At the third place, one of my friends saw a girl that he wanted to meet.

She was what you might call a "Hottie". And she had that look on her face that says "I'm pissed, but I know I'm sexy when I'm pissed, so I'm going to stay that way". I looked at my friend, and said, "Let’s go". As my friend and I were walking toward her, he was asking me what he should say to her.

I realized something in that moment:

1. He was in a place mentally that was beyond anything that a cute "pick up line" would fix.
2. He was about to talk to a "professional" when it comes to being approached by men.
3. He needed to learn something, not get the girl.

In the end, he said something to her and she acted stuck up, and we walked away.

But here’s the important part.

It was obvious that he was feeling a little bit uncomfortable about the whole interaction. About approaching a hot, "unapproachable" girl, and then having her "shoot him down". So I said "Now, what's the big deal? Does it matter at all? NO!" Then I said "Let's go talk to someone else".

I think that it's important to realize that your reality is what you make of it.

I have done a lot of "inner work" on my own reality, and I've come to a deep understanding and realization that no woman (or man) can take away my joy and positive outlook on the world unless I give her the power to do so.

So guess what? Women do not upset me anymore.

Use your imagination to create a reality that you want to live in, and then start living there. No one is going to call you up one day and say "Hey, I am granting you permission to live the life you want. So go get it".

You're going to have to create the reality that you want to live in. And then start living it.

*modified from something i read